How many times have we assumed that we were unlucky or even cursed because we were going through unbearably painful tribulations? How often do we wonder why bad things happen to us and not to other people? Is there a better way of handling this? Is it possible for us to learn to accept what comes into our existence?
The Bantu life philosophy teaches us that it is normal, human and OK to experience feelings such as sadness, unhappiness or discouragement when we are confronted with dreadful, horrible circumstances. However, it also encourages us to understand that we must accept and then let go of these negative feelings so that we are in a better position to serve humanity to the best of our ability. In order to be able to do this, we have to be eager to embrace the ebbs and flows of life.
Rather than seeing painful experiences as fearful circumstances that must be avoided at all costs, we should view them as opportunities to better appreciate past or future joyful occasions. When we are undergoing sorrowful experiences, we must confront them without relinquishing or giving up seeking happiness. Equally, when we are in a state of bliss, we must enjoy it without forgetting or fearing the eventuality of suffering and pain.
By Sylvie Aboa-Bradwell