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Happiness Comes from Your Soul, Not from the Eyes of Others

Integrity is at the core of the Bantu life philosophy. This philosophy states that as a human being, you are the beneficiary of the love, work and commitment of those who came before you and, therefore, you too have a duty to love and serve humanity to the best of your ability.

If you accept this, you will, undoubtedly, adopt honesty and uprightness as your guiding principles.

Obviously, it is not always easy for us to remain honest or upright throughout our lives. Too often, we feel compelled to subordinate truth, uprightness and justice to the demands of our loved ones, or our bosses, or the communities from which we derive a sense of identity, pride and belonging.

Nevertheless, we must strive to resist these pressures. If we have already fallen prey to them, we must resolve to free ourselves. We can hardly delight in our actions when, deep down, we know that they are unjust, dishonest and wrongful. If we view ourselves as the privileged beneficiaries, keepers and transmitters of the love, efforts and commitment of our predecessors, we would not be happy to see this wonderful legacy defiled by dishonesty, injustice, greed and so many other things that are threatening our integrity.

No soul should be above ours when it comes to preserving, improving and passing on the legacy of love, work and commitment of the people who came before us. “Ye nsísim woe wa tag?” (Is your soul rejoicing?), my grandfather used to ask me whenever he would either chastise me or urge me to think about the possible consequences of my planned actions. The happiness of our soul, not the eyes of others, should guide and inspire our actions.

By Sylvie Aboa-Bradwell

Founder and CEO, Medzan Training                            Contact Sylvie

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You Do not Know Joy Unless You Know Suffering

How many times have we assumed that we were unlucky or even cursed because we were going through unbearably painful tribulations? How often do we wonder why bad things happen to us and not to other people? Is there a better way of handling this? Is it possible for us to learn to accept what comes into our existence?

The Bantu life philosophy teaches us that it is normal, human and OK to experience feelings such as sadness, unhappiness or discouragement when we are confronted with dreadful, horrible circumstances. However, it also encourages us to understand that we must accept and then let go of these negative feelings so that we are in a better position to serve humanity to the best of our ability. In order to be able to do this, we have to be eager to embrace the ebbs and flows of life.

Rather than seeing painful experiences as fearful circumstances that must be avoided at all costs, we should view them as opportunities to better appreciate past or future joyful occasions.  When we are undergoing sorrowful experiences, we must confront them without relinquishing or giving up seeking happiness. Equally, when we are in a state of bliss, we must enjoy it without forgetting or fearing the eventuality of suffering and pain.


By Sylvie Aboa-Bradwell

Founder and CEO, Medzan Training                            Contact Sylvie

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